It’s technically possible for a birth mother to change her mind about giving up her child for adoption for a short time after the child is placed with the new family. This is one of the big fears that people have when adopting a child, as they don’t want to take the child home, begin to think of it as their own, and then have it taken away again.
Of course, this can’t go on forever, as parental rights are eventually signed away, which is why many mothers who back out do it before birth or right after birth. Still, it’s important to consider how often this happens.
One researcher reached out to numerous attorneys and agents to find out how often they saw a mother give up her child, place it with a family, and then change her mind. These are some of the responses:
— In a decade, with 940 total placements, one agency said this had happened just four times.
— Another agency, which had done around 700 placement at the time, said they’d seen it happen roughly 10 times.
— An attorney who had worked on more than 1,000 cases claimed to only have seen this situation play out five times.
— Another attorney, with a much smaller sample size of only 45 cases, noted that only once had the mother changed her mind at this point.
As you can see, this is a very uncommon event. However, it does happen, and it’s something that people in British Columbia need to be aware of when considering adoption. If you are, be sure you fully understand the process, your legal rights, and the mother’s rights.